This has to be the most beautiful celebration on the planet.
love this festival.
Asked by hollypalooza
I think the key to gaining confidence through your wardrobe is to start small with pieces made for your body, not pieces made for mass consumption.
Just because a store has adorable clothes doesn’t mean it’s going to fit your body type, and it’s so important to remember that it does not mean that your body is wrong! It just means that you aren’t built the same way they assume everyone is built. Like I cannot shop at Forever 21 except for shirts and jewelry because everything that I love, especially their dresses, is extremely short on me. And it’s easy to try something on and have it not fit and be like “this is my body’s fault and my fault,” but really it’s because they cannot possibly make clothes to fit every person because everyone is different, and that’s okay.
Instead of approaching clothes in terms of gaining confidence, think of it in terms of letting yourself believe you are beautiful. My favorite color is mustard yellow. I know very well that mustard yellow is all kinds of ugly to like 90% of the human population, but to me it is gorgeous and wearing it makes me feel good, and so I will wear it for me, goddamn it. If you like the color blue, wear the color blue. It will make you happy and help you to like your body because you are wearing something you find beautiful. You are worthy of beautiful things. In the end, it isn’t about picking out clothes that look good for everyone else—it’s about picking out items that look good to you and for you.
Own things that can make you feel good, not things that look good according to the conventions of an image-driven society. You don’t have to do a wardrobe overhaul by any means, just start with one or two small accessories that you REALLY love, like a bright scarf or new shirt. Once you’re used to small accessories, just keep adding a pair shoes here, a blazer there until eventually you have a lot of small pieces that you can wear together to become a walking embodiment of items that, first and foremost, make you feel happy. And I promise that confidence will come from that.